*Megan Lewis works with married, partnered, or pre-marital couples. LGBTQ friendly.
As a couple, you can reach a point at any stage in your relationship where you are feeling disconnected from each other or "stuck". Sometimes, you are able to work through this on your own in order to get back to a place of connection, and other times, the sense of divide widens, despite your best efforts.
You might notice that when you feel more disconnection in your relationship, your interactions can become more negative and what previously might not have impacted you in interactions with each other might now create frustration, anxiety, or anger. You might feel stuck and helpless to change this cycle. We start with exploring the pattern or negative interactional cycle that was created over time and prevents you from getting "unstuck". We talk about difficult subjects and explore what has come between you as a couple while trying to keep blame from taking over the conversation. We also explore times where you have felt more connected as a couple and explore what was happening differently at that time. Then, we work to start to "catch" this negative interactional pattern that creates the disconnection and work to deepen your understanding and awareness of your experiences in this pattern as well as your partner's experiences in this pattern. As you begin to understand your responses in moments of distress as well as your partner's, you might start to notice that you begin to "soften" in moments with each other that used to create distress. As you continue through this process, we will continue to work to build connection and shift perspective so that you and your partner feel more important to the other. What couples can find through this process is that when connection and relationship security are present, working through conflict or challenging times can feel easier.
Megan also works with couples who are considering or comitted to long-term partnership or marriage and want to strenghten their relationship. Perhaps there are not any struggles in the relationship that cause you significant concern, but you are wanting to gain awareness and skills to maintain a connected relationship over time.